Today is the beginning of my very first blog…and I am celebrating something very important…my UN-anniversary. On February 22, 1986 I was a young 20 year old bursting with love, hopes and dreams. This was the day I married the man I was to spend the rest of my life with, Dan Miller. That dream did not happen, but this is what did…
1. I had two glorious children who I am incredibly proud of and admire. I am in awe of the wonderful human beings they have become.
2. I fulfilled my goals of becoming a wife, a mother, and a teacher.
3. I ventured out into the world of living overseas.
4. I was given the gift of another family, my in-laws.
5. I created many beautiful memories with family and friends.
Dan and I divorced in July of 2004. It was definitely the most difficult and heartbreaking time of my life. But this is what happened…..
1. I became ‘me’ in a sense that I had never done before.
2. I recognized my true worth.
3. I awakened my beliefs and values.
4. I recognized that the most important and powerful things in life to me are compassion and connection…that they move me through my world.
5. I established a wonderfully different relationship with Dan, now my ex-husband and always the father of my children.
6. I became friends with a very caring woman, Liz, who is Dan’s wife.
So, today is a day that always brings reflection…and I am enormously grateful that I have lived my life as I have. I am very appreciative to have the relationship with Dan and Liz that I do. I also recognize that it is the graciousness and kind heart of Liz that has helped this become a reality.
I often get told that I have been “extraordinary” in how I have handled my life since my divorce, but in my heart I do not believe that. I believe that in this world, everyone does the best they can at every moment. If I keep that in my heart always, there is much less pain and an open heart of the beautiful things to come…
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing
and rightdoing there is a field.
I'll meet you there.
Rumi
Happy UN-anniversary to me
Gushing with love for you sis.
ReplyDeleteJ~
Oh so beautifully written! *Hugs* to you, Mary. With all my love, -j.
ReplyDeleteThat is so beautiful Mary....Thank you for sharing...meenu (nvc practise session from new delhi)
ReplyDeleteOh Mary, where to begin. One of the best things I did was start a blog. I am thrilled that you did. You are always well spoken and you are well written as well. Your first entry touched my heart as only you can do.
ReplyDeleteYour comment: "I recognized my true worth." is exciting as most people never do. You have made a positive impact on numerous students, friends of your children, colleagues, friends, family members, and strangers you meet at conferences, gatherings, and on the side walk.
You are an inspiration to many, me included!!
Love Ya!
Mary,
ReplyDeleteYou will always be Extraordinary to me! (note the capital 'E'). I think you are wonderful and I'm glad you do too. Happy Un-Anniversary!
Also, I hope that Liz gets to see this and recognizes what a beautiful woman she is and that Dan gets to read it and realize how incredibly fortunate he is.
Love you,
Deb.